Colin Longworth - Psychologist & Counsellor

 


 Available in Huntingdale-Thornlie, Perth (East) & Cyberspace - Helping you find your own solutions
PLEASE NOTE:  Back to offering in-person (with appropriate Social distancing) & Telehealth consultations

Domestic Violence


Archie Roach - Walking Into Doors  - This video on YouTube is what it's all about.
  

For Those at Risk - Ring 000 if you feel you are in danger.
 
National Sexual Assault Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service
Phone counselling and support 24/7  - Phone 1800 737 7321800 737 732 FREE including online counselling

Or see the website 1800respect.org.au for more information  

An ABC News item to be aware of:

For information about:

As the Police say:
"The most important thing you can do is to get help!
You need information and support to make yourself safe and end the abuse.

Is it a crime?   YES!

Examples of criminal offences that occur in family and domestic violence situations include assault, sexual assault, making threats about a person's physical safety, stalking, damage or stealing of property and breaching Restraining Orders." http://www.police.wa.gov.au/Yoursafety/familyviolence/tabid/895/default.aspx


Perpetrators
Domestic Violence is not about, or the same as “Anger Management” because Domestic Violence is directed towards a person with whom the “offender” is in a close intimate relationship (definitely not a “stranger") 

It should also be remembered that it can occur in all sorts of relationships (including same-sex relationships) and is not always a case of a man being domestically violent towards a woman, sometimes it is the other way around.
 
Usually working on Domestic Violence involves looking at attitudes, beliefs and behaviours 
 
This can include looking at the offenders actions, while trying to separate the actions from the person.
 
For example instead of thinking (and possibly saying) "You are a bad person!" look at the offence as an otherwise good man (usually) engaging in bad behaviour.
 
The Duluth Model is a widely used way of looking at  Domestic Violence and identifies how domestic Violence involves a number of parts to it, not just the physical "violence".

Anger Management is about learning to express your disagreement, frustration etcetera in a socially acceptable way. It can also be about  working out if your anger is really justified? Learning to use a better way to respond to something you don’t like, can be another part of learning to manage anger.
 
In the case of intimate relationships this can also be about creating a situation where both parties feel safe to express disagreements, disappointments and the like, without fear of physical or emotional violence.

For those interested a link to the Irish Man Up campaign.